SLUT CHALLENGE

When I was younger the word “slut” would bother me so much, whether it was was directed towards me or not. The thing is as a young girl you are very fragile, and barely discovering your sexuality so you are highly swayed by the opinions of others. The word “slut” was originally meant to describe something that was untidy and messy and has clearly developed in terms of definition throughout the years. Now the word carries a heavy weight with a negative connotation deriving from the idea that women must wait until marriage to participate in sexual acts. The common practice for this kinda thing would be to ask an audience to simply stop using the word (which we all know is unrealistic), such as Ms. Norbury did in Mean Girls: “you all have got to stop calling each other sluts and whores. It just makes it ok for guys to call you sluts and whores;” and while this word may have deep effects on adolescent girls, I instead challenge you to take the word very lightly. I want women to be secure with who they are and what they want, an unintelligent insinuation of your PRIVATE sex life should not cause a negative impact on your life because that is to be your business alone. It does not matter what anybody says to you unless you agree with it. Do whatever you want with your private life, whether you want to have a very active sexual life or not, know that it in NO WAY MAKES YOU LOSE RESPECT FOR YOURSELF. Your self-respect is not determined by your sexuality!!!!!! And don’t let any boy who isn’t getting any tell you any different. Let us just take it merely as a word that describes our very active sex life, no negative connotation involved. So when you hear someone say that word let it roll of your shoulders and let’s make sure in no longer carries a heavy weight, for our well-being and for the well-being of our growing younger sisters.

 
 

While these responses really made me reflect on our societal structure, there was one response that truly moved me while reading because she stated my exact thoughts very seamlessly. While I did not write this to compare genders, because I feel as if that sets a sort of hierarchy among them, she expressed her thoughts very eloquently:

We live in a society where respecting girls is not “trendy”, in fact if you are one of the few in the male species that do, you are seen as “soft”. Being called a slut is one of the worst things that you can call a woman. Not only is it meant to be hurtful and degrading but it implies that having sexual partners and being intimate is something shameful. The same people who use this term take pride in how many “hoes” they’ve gotten with. They have this idea in their mind that women are only there to satisfy the sexual needs of men. Personally, the fact that this is still an issue makes me disappointed in our society and especially our generation. It’s the fucking twenty first century. Too many years of silence have passed and women should speak their mind and not allow this kind of degrading language to be spread.
— Olgina
Genesis Chavez